Build Your Resilience
Stress. We spin ourselves out of control and feel lost, lonely, and like we are a failure. This feeling is normal and nearly everyone (okay, realistically everyone) has this experience at some point. Sometimes, there are easy ways to work our way out of it and rebuild our confidence. Other times, we get stuck and don’t know what to do. We forget that we have tools and resources to help us get back on track. Sometimes, we need help for getting back on track.
Support groups: There are support groups offered at most churches, community centers, clinics and hospitals, or through therapists on almost any topic. You can talk with your physician or a therapist about what groups might be in your area or search on the internet.
Lifestyle changes: Simple changes to diet, exercise, and sleep habits can improve physical and mental well-being and provide a sense of control and accomplishment. Sleep is almost always the first place where we notice that we are struggling because increased anxiety or stress can make it harder to sleep. Healthier snacks, a walk around the block, taking the stairs can help to give a boost of energy.
Use your support system: Your network of friends and family can provide emotional support and encouragement during difficult times. Talking to a good friend can help to create greater context and insight and gain advice.
Realistic goals: Setting small, achievable goals can help to build momentum and a sense of accomplishment. It is easier to finish small projects than larger ones so break those overwhelming tasks into smaller steps. Be realistic on what you can do in a given day and be willing to ask for help.
Self-care: Do things that help you relax and re-energize. Activities that promote well-being, such as yoga, meditation, or journaling, can help to reduce stress and improve overall mood. Try to do something every day that is just for you.
Seek financial assistance: If financial problems are contributing to your stress, seeking assistance from government programs or non-profit organizations can help to alleviate some of that strain. Working with a trusted advisor or a friend or family member on a realistic budget can also help reduce the anxiety about the next bill.
Professional help: Sometimes we need help understanding life and learning how to better cope. A good therapist or counselor can provide support and guidance for addressing mental health issues, addiction, and other underlying problems that contribute to stress.
It's important to remember that everyone's situation is unique, and the steps that work for one person may not work for another. It's also important to be patient with yourself and recognize that it can take time to make positive changes in your life. We don’t have to change everything in our life, sometimes we just need to make one small change at a time.